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A Practice in Love

There is an exercise, and I have done this with clients: You count and keep a running log of every time you have a negative thought throughout the day. Through the tabulation process, you first start acknowledging those thoughts, and through practice, are able to decrease them until eventually getting to a place of controlling them – instead of them controlling you.
 
The same exercise would be fascinating right now. How many times does (insert political figure that you ‘hate’) come into your thoughts? For example, how many times do you think of “Trump”?
 
For many, I am guessing, the number would be staggering. But, all that is doing is giving attention (and most importantly energy) to that, which you don’t like. With the self-fulling prophecy, you will then find anecdotal evidence to support those thoughts.
 
The question becomes, if that is the case, how’s that working for you?
 
Maybe it is, or maybe you don’t even realize that it is happening (just as you don’t realize how many times you are thinking a negative thought).  Maybe once you recognize that you energetically being consumed by one, or a few people, that are not serving your higher good.   It may result in additional frustration, anger, lack of sleep, and overall displeasure for the world as a whole.  That can not only negative affect yourself, but your family, your coworkers, and even strangers on the street.
Using politics as an example is easy, because in today’s climate it is so divisive, and it is a slippery slope that can quickly become all consuming.   The same though can be said for your boss, your significant other, or everyone on the road while you are driving.  That exercise of counting how many times you have a negative emotional outburst throughout the day can be quite enlightening.
The point and significance is understanding that we do not have a “Trump” problem, or a a “Hillary” problem, but rather we have an issue with giving outside stimuli control over not only our emotions, but our feelings, thoughts, and worst of all, our actions.
It is absolutely natural (healthy even) to be angry, frustrated, sad, disappointed, but allowing ourselves to become consumed in it, is not taking control of the only thing we can truly control, which is our own thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions.
Maybe it does work for you.   Maybe you are so inspired by the current political climate that you are taking action by not only volunteering, but running for office.  Maybe you have such a strong desire for change that for the first time you are participating in the voting process.
It is also not necessarily that having repetitive negative thoughts is a bad thing, either, but how those are being utilized.   Are they a motivating factor, or are they debilitating?  Elite athletes, for one, have used negative thoughts of not being good enough as a motivational tool to be the best in the game.
The key question is still the same.  Is that working for you?  And, for you, that means specific to you not your parents, your children, your spouse, your friends, your fans, the media, or anyone else in the world.
For devil’s advocate, let’s say for a second though, that it is not working.  What is the answer?  Better yet, what is the solution?
For starters, stop giving it energy.  If you don’t like a particular politician, stop constantly talking about him (or her) and find a healthy outlet to replace those thoughts and actions.   Stop posting about them, and stop arguing about them.
Negative thoughts though can be quite addicting.  If it seems impossible not to talk, post, or argue, about a particular thought or person maybe it is time re-evaluate it.  The stronger the emotional attachment, possibly the greater the need to let go of it, and them.
If we replace negative thoughts with positive ones, is that being non-authentic?  It can certainly feel that way, especially in the beginning.
A much more radical solution is to give them, or whatever you have such a strong disdain for, love.   Love thy enemies.
That seems counterintuitive to everything that feels right, and often everything that we are taught.  It is also a very disciplined practice.   And, the mind can easily play tricks by saying, “What difference can I make?”
It is true that unconditional love has not been historically sustaining.  We have seen periods through religious figures such as Jesus Christ, Buddha, and Muhammad.  They all have a common theme of love.
The message is the same, but how everyone interprets that message is personal to each individual.
Love, as well as peace, is a very powerful tool.  Ghandi, for example, shut down an entire country in an incredibly short period of time without resorting to violence.   As equally incredible is how quickly upon his demise did everything go back to “normal”, or more precisely back to the way it was.
Maybe that was because he had such unconditional love, peace, and passion for the cause himself but those others who his followers had not yet found that own internal love for themselves.   And, maybe that is truly the answer (to all problems) is to focus on within.  Maybe if each and every one of us were so filled with unconditional love, peace, gratitude, and acceptance, what would a world like that look like?
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You Are Beautiful

Look not away

But here in my eye
When to you I say
You are beautiful

Whole complete
A divine goddess
From head to feet
For you are you
Authentic and true
Beautiful you are

Complete whole
Goddess so divine
Inside and out
For you are you
See it see it too
How beautiful you are

Strong and brave
A divine goddess
Intelligent and wise
There is only one you
This is nothing new
You are Beautiful

Love and light
A divine goddess
Day and night
You being you
Through and through
You are beautiful as is

Look not away
Meet me in my eyes
When to you I say
You are beautiful

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Embrace Your  Adjective(s)

 
However it is
that You
describe
You

How others describe You
maybe who you think
You are

But, that is a far cry
from who
You are

Or, maybe the two
they coincide

But, let not their
adjective(s)
automatically become
your adjective(s)

Let not the adjective(s)
be demoralizing
to the mind
crippling to the soul

Allow the adjective(s)
to flow
from the mind
to the soul

Embrace
You(r)

AWESOME

BEAUTIFUL

CREATIVE

DELICIOUS

EXQUISITE

FUN

GLORIOUS

HAPPY

INNOVATIVE

JOYOUS

KILLER

LOVABLE

MALLABLE

NOBLE

OPEN

PIONEERING

QUICK-WITTED

 

REMARKABLE


SPECTACULAR

TERRIFIC

UNBREAKABLE

VICTORIOUS

WISE

XOXOX

YOUTHFUL

ZESTFUL


Adjective(s)

Lost….In Finding My (higher) Self

When I lose myself
completely
in the submersion
of
myself
for
myself
with
myself

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washing away
what has been taught
heard and thought
to come clean
through the revelation

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of what is
and what
is not
what was
and what is
no longer relevant

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In the mirror
That was my
Own illusion
There a fresh
I see

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a new state
of being
as I find that
which I have
been searching for
all along
revealed in the form

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of
my true self
for
my real self
to
my higher self

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Two Events – Two Roles

Every day we create the universe before our eyes that is as we choose it to be.

Today, for me, I was introduced to two gentleman with very similar circumstances but they both were playing very different roles.

What if everyone is playing a role?  Not merely playing the role of parent, caregiver, lover, friend, employee, or employer, or whatever societal role yours may be, but what about everyone playing other roles as well?

The first gentleman, we will call him Jacob, was in his early 20s and for anyone who think that generation has somehow lost a step I am absolutely loving this new energy I keep manifesting for myself.   This young man is very indicative of others  his age I have met recently.
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Jacob had such amazing energy. He was so vibrant, excited and completely in joy when I picked him up for a ride.   As soon as he got in the car, I could feel his energy.

I asked Jacob where he was going, and he responded by saying he had only a few minutes earlier woke up to his friend asking him if he could change the tire on his van that had been left on I-95.  There was no resistance but instead, Jacob was excited about the opportunity to help him, because in part, he had known since he was 4 years old.

Jacob had such high vibration, and not only could I feel his energy, b20171223_123601_001ut I could see he was playing the role of hero.  Jacob was his friend’s hero, and he stepped fully into this role.

After dropping him off, and a little while later, I was manifested the second gentleman.   I had parked my car, and was getting ready to walk towards the grocery story when he called out asking if I could jump his car.   I had a feeling I was not the first person he asked.

He was not only much older than Jacob, but he was quite a bit older than myself.  We will call him Ethan, and he had on a gold necklace, a bright yellow button down dress shirt that he wore out over his dress pants.

I could feel Ethan’s energy was kind, much like Jacob’s, although Ethan was nervous.

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The hood of the car was already up, the jumper cables already attached, and the first thing Ethan told me was that he had to push his car even though he recently had surgery.  He then pulled up his pant leg to reveal the long scar.

Ironically, when I was pulling in I thought I saw him pushing the car and had planned on parking and then getting out to help him push, but he had already finished.

I could feel Ethan needed to share about having surgery, because his role he was playing was of the victim.

It is said that a hero needs a villain, but that is reserved for comic books and super heroes, because in reality the villain needs the hero, and the hero needs the villain.  They both play off one another.

Another irony is both ended their time with me in much the same way.   Both gave me a man hug, said they were incredibly grateful, and were gone as quickly as they arrived.

The victim was not bad, nor the hero good.  Both were merely playing a role.superhero-296963_960_720

At other times, if we would have met at a different place or time, the roles may be reversed.

We have all played the role of victim.  We have all played the role of hero.   And, we consistently play many different roles.  Those roles play off each other, as people come in and out of our lives, even like Ethan and Jacob, their time with me is but for only a few moments.

Seeing people as playing a role helps me to see them as more human and allows me to see them as even more human, as I recognize in myself the many times I have played the role of a victim.  I have seen the many times I have played the role of a hero, too.

In fact, these two gentleman that I manifested today are a gentle reminder of not only when I have been the victim and the hero, but what other roles I am playing each and every day.

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