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How connected are we, really?

We reside in a world that is more connected than ever, and yet in some ways, we can be equally disconnected.  That disconnect extends, more often than not, from ourselves.

If I may share what has been incredibly beneficial for myself (both professionally and personally) is two of my practices. Through sharing my hope is it may beneficial to you, or someone you know.

They are:

1) Living in complete Joy –  In order to achieve complete joy, my first step is to become mindful of the moment and to be able to feel the emotion of enjoying whatever it is I am doing not dependent upon circumstance or situation.  Like any other exercise, it takes commitment to achieve results, and part of this includes daily meditation. A very simple one is breathing in, smiling (visualizing my entire body smiling) and then breathing out releasing (and letting go of) whatever is no longer serving me.  Through meditation, I am able to control my thoughts rather than having my thoughts control me.  The focus though is not only on my thoughts but also my emotions, and feelings, while taking full responsibility for my actions and behaviors.  The more I allow myself to acknowledge that joy is possible at any place, and any time, the more I allow myself to embrace joy right now, which transcends all that I do and all that I am.

2) Unconditional Appreciation –  Coupled with living in complete joy is my practice of unconditional appreciation. Not only am I grateful, but I am consciously appreciating everyone and everything that is present in this moment. My focus is on what I have rather than what I do not in conjunction with focusing on the solution(s) rather than the problem. Every single person who comes into my life is for my own higher good. Every thing that I encounter is an opportunity to learn and to grow, and the more I am able to appreciate all I have right now, the more I am able to enjoy all that life has to offer.

How can I support and/or be of service to you?



Too Blind To See

Is Color Blind

There are
Of all colors
From all walks of life
From all faiths
From all backgrounds
From all corners
Of the world
Rich and poor







Is Color Blind

There are
Of all colors
From all walks of life
From all faiths
From all backgrounds
From all corners
Of the world
Rich and poor









This moment
THE most pivotal
In all history
To stay
Or go
To turn right
Or go left
Or to take it slow

These are but a few
Choices to be made
In this moment
THE most pivotal
In all history

That was
For it is now
And this
Is now.

the moment
it will be
THE most pivotal
in all history

As quickly
As it came
And went
But without it
We would have not
Gotten from there
To here.


Action over complacency
Building over destroying
Compassion over hate
Determination over doubt
Enthusiasm over apathy
Freedom over submission
Greatness over mediocrity
Healing over hurting
Inspiration over intimidation,
Joining over corrupting
Kissing over conflict
Love over fear……
~Bryan Hayes


As a culture, we fail
when we let fear; hate and/or violence
become social norm.
As a society, we fail
when we shun “them” instead
of embracing them.
As a community, we fail
when even one member dies
feeling unloved.
~ Bryan Hayes

We Failed

In the end

In the end
I can only hope and pray
That I can
With confidence safely say
That I

Achieved far greater success
Than monumental failure

Broke more unsubstantiated rules
Then played it safe

Caught a higher number of fly balls
Than committed unforced errors

Delivered on more promises
Then made frivolous excuses

Encountered much healthier days
Than sick time

Found greater inner peace
Than internal strife

Gained further financial freedom
Than shackled in debt

Harbored more authentic friends
Than true enemies

Invested extra time in people
Than to things

Joined healthier conversations
Than engaged in gossip

Kept closer distance to great wealth
Than extreme poverty

Loved life at a far higher quality
Than hated anything

Moved weightier mountains
Then got stuck running in place

Narrated more positive dialogue
Than negative thoughts

Performed at a higher standard
Then called upon

Questioned better
Then responded in kind

Reacted less to others opinion
Then formed my own

Swallowed more pride
Than ate unwanted flies

Touched the lives of far more
Than touched mine

Under promised at greater frequency
Than under delivered

Viewed more genuine good in others
Than focused on the bad

X-rayed greater depth of being
Than wallowed on the surface

Yelled much less
Than need be

Zeroed in on the right thing to do
Than followed others blindly

Shall I
With confidence safely say
That I did
I can only hope and pray
In the end.

~Bryan W Hayes
@ August 20, 2014