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The Thought Before You Think


No more words are needed.

It is a complete sentence all to itself.

It is a complete thought all by itself.

While some see the world as Hell, I see Heaven above, below, and all around me.  I see it now. I see it every day.

While some see Fear and Hate, I see  Love. I see it above, below, and all around me. I see it now. I see it every day.

Thought of the Day:

The Thought Before You Think

When someone asks, “How are you?” that is a loaded question.

How am I physically, mentally, spiritually, financially?  At this moment?  Or, overall?

The answer really is not about them, it’s about us.   How can we tell where are at in any given moment?    Recognizing the thought, before we think, which is the first thought we think before we starting consciously thinking.  For example, what is the first thought when:

  • I wake up in the morning?
  • I see myself in the mirror?
  • I look at my checking account?
  • I open the mail to an unexpected bill?
  • I open the mail to an unexpected check?
  • I am paid a compliment?
  • I notice someone looking at me?
  • I look at them and they smile?
    • And, they are of the same sex?
    • Of the opposite sex?
    • Younger?
    • Older?
    • Same race?
    • Or, different?
  • I hear someone say, “I need to talk to you?”
    • And, it’s a boss
    • Or, a significant other?
  • I step inside a church?
    • Or, a cemetery?
  • I step into a crowded room?
    • And, it’s full of strangers?
  • I am all alone for any length of time?
  • I walk into a room full of models?

I Can, But Why?

How Can I


For possessing less than I

How Can I


For acquiring more than me

How Can I


For being different than I

How Can I


For landing softer than me

How Can I


For falling harder than I

How Can I


For being different than me

Photographer:  Tobias Steiner Writing by:  Bryan Hayes
Photographer: Tobias Steiner
Writing by: Bryan Hayes

I See The Light, By Cathy Roberts

I see the light …….
the light in you ……..   …….
that reflects back to me ……..   
……….. the true you that I didn’t see!!!  
Forgiveness for thoughtlessness
…….. days of uncertainty cloud my perception
…… changing the reality I should see!!!
The door is open through the mind …….
at the point of seeing ……..  .
…….. what my heart couldn’t see!!!
Forgive me if I ever hurt you with my words …….
never my intention to make you small ……..
you’ve been a great teacher through it all!!
Your heart is big ……..
your light is great ……..  
………. you shine so brightly
…….. even in your darkest flight!!  
Love you ……
for all that you are ……..  
……. a diamond in what can be
“the roughness of life”
@By Cathy Roberts

New Year New Life

The new year for me is not about resolutions, although I am resolute in the fact that it is a time of transformation on a grand scale.    I am transforming myself physically, mentally, emotionally, financially simply in the fact there are constantly in motion.    The focus though is single minded that there is an opportunity, although not merely because of the change of the date on the calendar.   Prospects for and of something bigger and better, brighter and new, are on the horizon of every single day.

Just as the sun rose today, and as it does without fail, so too will opportunities as well as challenges arise.   As they say, it matters not what happens to any of us but rather how we handle what happens to us.   Each and every second we are afforded the ability to choose, and as with everything, it begins within.

In this fresh beginning, I am not looking for a job.   Nay.  I am seeking a career of epic proportions. I do not want to be a clog in the wheel that chugs along without adding value.  No.  I am eager to add value in more ways than one.   No matter what the position I want to see myself and be seen as a leader and someone who inspires.

Money is not the focal point, although is it a means to an end?  Absolutely.   We do not exist in a comprehensive barter situation but rather ours is a system of monetary exchange.    It is a matter of survival.

I am not one to profess being a survivor.   Instead, it is my intention to thrive instead of simply survive.   I often hear that being afforded the monetary means to pay the bills is sufficient enough, although there is a correlation.  The more one accelerates their increase in cash flow the more there are bills to be paid.

Money, it will come and go but how we handle ourselves through the good times and the bad is what transcends time.    If we are successful, kind and considerate people there is not only no harm in being successful but it is a part of the responsibility of living life to be the best we can be.

The real investment in oneself is in our own thoughts and our own body, because that is really the only thing that we can control.   We can only do what we can do, surround ourselves with the superlative support teams and put ourselves in to be successful.   The same is true of teams we lead, providing others with the same latitude to be at thC6091Color300(2)eir finest.

I know without a doubt that today will be better tomorrow, that tomorrow will present me with something better and I am in control of my own destiny.   For myself and many others, the path may be murky and without a visual destination.  For us, it is a matter of faith trusting that each step forward is closer to where we are going.

Grateful am I to be brought here to this today, and honoring am I that which I have been provided knowing that in appreciating what is here and now will only strengthen my bond with the future knowing  we will get there.   If we can only relish in the progression, the progress as well as the failures stumbles and falls, because each and every rung on the ladder is taking us to the top.


There may not be enough numbers to quantify my gratitude to the universe.    I am eternally grateful for each and every day that brought me to today.    Thankful am I for the moments I have experienced along the way.

There have been the most beautiful dreams, scary nightmares and I embrace both as they are part of what makes me whole.   If not for sadness, hardship and pain, would I truly appreciate fully that which rises from the ashes?   Each experience is a part of the journey and the lessons they are many.

While I am very appreciative of everything I have, “things” do not permeate through my veins.   Rather it is the people, and the memories made, that is the most compelling.

There is no way I could ever consolidate the immeasurable number of souls that have passed my way in the last year.   Most have come and gone, a few stayed awhile, and fewer still are present now.

For those that are no longer here, and for anyone that I may have hurt, I am sorry.   I value you.   Please forgive me.

They say that one key to being successful is to surround yourself with like-minded individuals as your environment is stronger than you are.   How fortunate am I to be surrounded by some of the hardest working, kindest and most generous men and women to grace this planet starting with my family.  My parents are the symbol of these qualities and are a beacon for others.   The same can be said for my sister, and her family.   And, my girlfriend is also the same.

A bit of wisdom bestowed upon me years ago was that “all that matters is that you practice kindness.”

For this year the wisdom is:  Sometimes it’s time to “drop the L and start earning” and, “If you want to write, just start writing.”    Finally, “Listen not to the herd.  The herd is blind.”  The herd is often what is the loudest.   Their bellows fill the air with little or no objectivity.    Theirs may be the chorus but that does not necessarily mean they are on key.

The way, whatever way one chooses, is their way.   Their way may not be the same for everyone nor should it be.    Finding one’s own path to tranquility is led by one’s own internal compass.

My own has guided me through a rather bumpy patch that has not always been without problems.  In fact, over the course of this year there have been many a bump in the road, but I have gained greater compassion for myself and for others.

And, on the contrary, there are incredible caregivers who are there on a daily basis, to the nursing home, to the hospital, at a bedside, and these people care for their loved ones in such a marvelous way.     There is a call I try to make on at least once a weekly basis just to say hi.   The conversation is not what makes it so, but rather simply the effort to simply say hello.   There are those I have noticed who may never have anyone acknowledge them throughout any given day.    So many lie in pain and yet no one is there, because no one visits them.    Children in hospital with no parents, for example, and on the opposite spectrum elderly who have no family are too often an occurrence.

What I have come to realize if only we do the best we can, that is the best we can do.   We do not know others reasons why.   That is not for us to know.

I have seen great adversity conquered with my own eyes.  Those lost and left to the side having picked themselves up and are now making tremendous stride.  They are like you and I.  We all have our setbacks, our struggles, whatever they may be.    Theirs is evidence though that no matter how great the odds the will to overcome can and does.

Whatever your conviction, whatever your goals may be, no matter what the herd may think, follow your light.   Listen carefully and discernibly for advice that is fruitful instead of detrimental to you being the best you can be.    Be true to you.

Certainly, like all the rest, I have experienced friends who are not exactly the most friendly, heard neighbors who are not so incredibly neighborly and watched people act not so kindly to their own kind.

No matter what they may have done, sometimes it is easier to raise two fingers instead of one.


 P E A C E !

Health Is Wealth

Why is it important to be healthy – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially?

The healthier we are, the better we feel.  The better we feel, the more apt we are to help others.  The more we help others, the healthier we feel.

Likewise, the sicker we are, the worse we feel.  The worse we feel, the less likely we are to be able to help others, because it is a matter of being in survival mode focusing on getting better.  Therefore, it is not until we are one again, operating at full strength, that we are able to be function at our highest potential.

It is a balancing act.   If one is completely out of balance it affects the others.  That is why it is important to be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially healthy.


I am awake.

It is on this day today that I woke up.
In the magical way that this today started with the sun rising yet again, with my breathe not failing me as I too did rise.   And, in doing so the start of something beautiful began to be able to take shape.  My feet they failed me not as I stepped out of my bed and as easily as yesterday I walked.   And, to add to the wonder I talked and my voice was heard even cross invisible threads of contact.    To think that I was heard is even more miraculous and even understood.  How then could I ever think there be a need for anything more when this as the miracles they but unfolded even at the very start of the day?
There in the shadows, I found light.  And, I flipped the switch and somehow the darkness was completely pushed away.  Then, I could see.
Not stumbling over myself and navigating my way into the other room there I knew was the dog resting there as he was the night before.   I did not have to see him to know I would find him there.  Then, as we communicated with each other he so inexplicably walked towards the door to be let outside.   He knew it was the exit wagging his tail the closer to it he got.  How amazing it is to think that he knows?
Without having to have it before me, I believed it would be and that was enough. I simply knew and so it was.
Thank you. I am grateful.