Is there anything more frivolous than the way the word “friends” is thrown around today?
It happens every once in awhile when I am walking around somewhere and I am approached by someone who says something like, “Hey, I know you. We’re friends.”
My first thought is that a precursor to being a friend to someone is to actually know that person. If I am not able to recognize them, then how are they a friend? That is at least my question.
But, typically the person will smile and say something like, “Yes. We’re friends….on Facebook.”
It really comes to a theory I have that even though we are more connected than ever through the advancement in technology and especially with the internet and yet we are in some ways as equally disconnected. There is something amiss when we connect with someone and call them a “friend” although in terms of marketing it is genius, because there is truly a consecutiveness that is associated with being a friend.
In some ways we do connect with people and even on a level of depth although we may never actually know them in person. Likewise, we may have a relationship with someone in the real world, if you will, and really not know anything about them at all. That is the fascinating quandary of the lives that we live.
While the dictionary may have the definitions for “friend”, we all have our own definition of what it means to be a friend. For most of us, we are truly lucky if we have even a handful of true friends at any given time. Sometimes, even in a lifetime.
Then again, that is coming from a place of where my definition of a friend derives. For some, they have 4,000 friends. If even one of those friends, for whatever reason, “unfriends” them then that becomes a real life issue for them. That is ok. That is the beauty of life. We all view it a little differently based upon where we are standing at any given moment.
I have been very fortunate throughout my life to be surrounded with such amazing friends. The reason I believe that friends are so important, no matter what our individual definition is, is that our environment is stronger than we are. We are a product of that environment.
It is very difficult to be incredibly positive when every one of your friends (and this includes online as well) are completely negative in their thought patterns as well as their actions.
Truth be told, we tend to assimilate ourselves to those that are like us. We like people who are like us, said in a different way.
I am though rather unique in that regard. I enjoy finding people who are quite diverse in their ideologies, their politics, religion, and so forth. For me, the commonality is that they are all incredibly positive, bright, creative, fun, and intelligent people. It matters not if someone thinks like me, but it is essential that they are positive people of impeccable integrity who are contributing to the world.
What does the word friend mean to you? Do you see your online friends the same as your more traditional friends? And, how many friends would you say you have?
One person’s frivolous is another’s serious, so either way, if you see me out and about or we are “friends” feel free to say hi.