A Practice in Love

There is an exercise, and I have done this with clients: You count and keep a running log of every time you have a negative thought throughout the day. Through the tabulation process, you first start acknowledging those thoughts, and through practice, are able to decrease them until eventually getting to a place of controlling them – instead of them controlling you.
 
The same exercise would be fascinating right now. How many times does (insert political figure that you ‘hate’) come into your thoughts? For example, how many times do you think of “Trump”?
 
For many, I am guessing, the number would be staggering. But, all that is doing is giving attention (and most importantly energy) to that, which you don’t like. With the self-fulling prophecy, you will then find anecdotal evidence to support those thoughts.
 
The question becomes, if that is the case, how’s that working for you?
 
Maybe it is, or maybe you don’t even realize that it is happening (just as you don’t realize how many times you are thinking a negative thought).  Maybe once you recognize that you energetically being consumed by one, or a few people, that are not serving your higher good.   It may result in additional frustration, anger, lack of sleep, and overall displeasure for the world as a whole.  That can not only negative affect yourself, but your family, your coworkers, and even strangers on the street.
Using politics as an example is easy, because in today’s climate it is so divisive, and it is a slippery slope that can quickly become all consuming.   The same though can be said for your boss, your significant other, or everyone on the road while you are driving.  That exercise of counting how many times you have a negative emotional outburst throughout the day can be quite enlightening.
The point and significance is understanding that we do not have a “Trump” problem, or a a “Hillary” problem, but rather we have an issue with giving outside stimuli control over not only our emotions, but our feelings, thoughts, and worst of all, our actions.
It is absolutely natural (healthy even) to be angry, frustrated, sad, disappointed, but allowing ourselves to become consumed in it, is not taking control of the only thing we can truly control, which is our own thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions.
Maybe it does work for you.   Maybe you are so inspired by the current political climate that you are taking action by not only volunteering, but running for office.  Maybe you have such a strong desire for change that for the first time you are participating in the voting process.
It is also not necessarily that having repetitive negative thoughts is a bad thing, either, but how those are being utilized.   Are they a motivating factor, or are they debilitating?  Elite athletes, for one, have used negative thoughts of not being good enough as a motivational tool to be the best in the game.
The key question is still the same.  Is that working for you?  And, for you, that means specific to you not your parents, your children, your spouse, your friends, your fans, the media, or anyone else in the world.
For devil’s advocate, let’s say for a second though, that it is not working.  What is the answer?  Better yet, what is the solution?
For starters, stop giving it energy.  If you don’t like a particular politician, stop constantly talking about him (or her) and find a healthy outlet to replace those thoughts and actions.   Stop posting about them, and stop arguing about them.
Negative thoughts though can be quite addicting.  If it seems impossible not to talk, post, or argue, about a particular thought or person maybe it is time re-evaluate it.  The stronger the emotional attachment, possibly the greater the need to let go of it, and them.
If we replace negative thoughts with positive ones, is that being non-authentic?  It can certainly feel that way, especially in the beginning.
A much more radical solution is to give them, or whatever you have such a strong disdain for, love.   Love thy enemies.
That seems counterintuitive to everything that feels right, and often everything that we are taught.  It is also a very disciplined practice.   And, the mind can easily play tricks by saying, “What difference can I make?”
It is true that unconditional love has not been historically sustaining.  We have seen periods through religious figures such as Jesus Christ, Buddha, and Muhammad.  They all have a common theme of love.
The message is the same, but how everyone interprets that message is personal to each individual.
Love, as well as peace, is a very powerful tool.  Ghandi, for example, shut down an entire country in an incredibly short period of time without resorting to violence.   As equally incredible is how quickly upon his demise did everything go back to “normal”, or more precisely back to the way it was.
Maybe that was because he had such unconditional love, peace, and passion for the cause himself but those others who his followers had not yet found that own internal love for themselves.   And, maybe that is truly the answer (to all problems) is to focus on within.  Maybe if each and every one of us were so filled with unconditional love, peace, gratitude, and acceptance, what would a world like that look like?
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Right Here, Now

I know the day
When I hit old age
Will be when I disparage
The youth of today
As somehow separate
From my youthful mistakes
Of Yesterday

I know the moment
When I become blind
Will be when I fail
To see
The beauty of here
The Heaven that is now
The life that is present

I know the moment
When I become deaf
Will be when I stop
Hearing the voice
Of my own intuition
That is my guide
Of what works for me
And, begin listening
To outside influences
Who are deafening

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I Love You, Thank You!

I don’t have time to do anything but love you, and yes, I fail a thousand times over whenever I judge, whenever I complain, whenever I do anything that is not loving and kind, because Heaven is right here right now in this moment. It is the only reality there is, and everything else is an illusion.

If you are here with me,
thank you.
I love you.
If you are away from me,
somewhere else,
thank you.
I love you.
If you agree with me.
Thank you.
I love you.
If you disagree with me.
Thank you.
I love you.
If you like me.
Thank you.
I love you.
If you don’t,
thank you.
I love you.

There is too much living to be done before my life turns to dust, so this day I must not crawl to a start but rather I must spring to the finish knowing I have given it my all.  I have left someone feeling better than than they arrived. I have made someone laugh, or even someone cry, out of love and happiness.

If I am alone
I am happy
to be here and now
in my own company
If I am with someone
I am happy
To be  here and now
in their company
If I succeed
I am happy
That I tried,
and it worked
If I fail
I am happy
That I tried,
and I will try again

I cannot lose, because there is no win or lose, but rather merely a single thread of existence with moments that only judge as being good or bad.  It is only that feel happy or sad, but I know not 99.99% of the world around me.  I only know what is real, which is this moment, and I cannot assume or judge, or try to alter or change anyone else’s moment.

I am so incredibly grateful
For you
Thank you
I love you
I am so incredibly grateful
For myself
Thank you
I love being me
I am blessed
To have have you in my life
Thank you
I love you
I am blessed
That you were in my life
Thank you
I love

I am blessed
Grateful
And loved
Unconditionally
so how can I do anything
but love myself
and others
unconditionally?

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As I Am, As You Are

I love you
But, may not necessarily
Like you
(all the time)
You Love Me
But, may not necessarily
Like me
(all the time)

I like you
But, may not necessarily
Be in Love with you
You like me
But, may not necessarily
Be in Love with me

We can like one another
And, can agree to disagree
We can love one another
As people, as souls
Even with opposing viewpoints
Because we can choose
To go beyond the points
To view each other
As people,
As souls

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You and I are one, but equally unique.

What works for one is not necessarily going to work for all.

Every person has their own unique authenticity that is a gift to the world, and each person has their own unique authentic gift to give to the world.

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In this world, I call my own, it is not my time or place to judge what someone else does or doesn’t do if it is distinctively unique and different even than the way I perceive the world to be.   I will though stand up, or sit down, as is appropriate for those who can not stand for themselves or so that someone is not sitting alone.

As long as someone is praying for peace, for love, I care not how they pray or to whom.  As long as someone is being kind and loving, I care not where they are from, or where they are going.

As long as someone holds value in this moment, they are worth my valuable time, and I am willing to give that to anyone regardless of if they are in line with how I look at life from my tiny window.

Forgive Me, Please….

Please
Forgive me
🙏
Anytime I lose my head
And complain
About anything
That has happened to me,
While seemingly natural,
It means that I am stuck in the past
And not living in the moment
Worse, I’m not being grateful for what is
Being completely here
Present and focused
On what I have
Blessed for everything
For everyone
Without condition
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Please
Forgive me
🙏
Anytime I lose my head
And if I do complain
About anything
That has happened to me,
Allow me the sanctuary
Even if means momentarily
I am venting about the past
And not living in the moment
Knowing full well
I’m not being grateful for what is
Or, being completely here
Present and focused
On what I have
Blessed for everything
For everyone
Without condition
And, I too
Will hold space
For you
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Please 

Forgive me

Let’s Each Be Us

At the end of the day
I have to be me
That’s all I can be
Nothing less, nothing more
It may, or may not
Fit neatly into your paradigm
But, at the end of the day
I have to be me
That’s all I can be

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You may not know me
And, even if you do
Do you see me?
Do you hear me?
And, even if you do
You may not know me

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At the beginning of the day
I want you to be you
That’s all I want you to be
Nothing less, nothing more
It may, or may not
Fit neatly into my paradigm
But, at the beginning of the day
I want you to be you
That’s all I I want you to be

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Find Me, Take Me, Escape Me – From Me

Find me
In the air that we breathe
Find me
Under the stars we share
Find me
Just follow the rays of the sun
Find me

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Beckon me not
To the place I have been
Forward I must
Forge into the untold story
Courageously
Charging without any sword
Or shield
Into the magical unknown
Of love
And, wonder, where worlds
Not collide
But, open, from the inside

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